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Top 10 Traits Of A Great Christian Girlfriend

by Lee Wilson

Number 10 - She's independent
No, I don't mean that she's a radical feminist or an arrogant loudmouth. I mean that she is confident, optimistic and doesn't require you in her world every second to maintain her sanity. She misses you when you aren't with her, but she knows she will survive. She knows that there are some things that are outside of her control and she's not going to pout or worry about them. She enjoys time with her friends and isn't hurt if you want to spend an evening playing X-box with your buds.

Number 9 - She's complimentary of your looks
If you're always telling her how beautiful you think she is and all she can say is "thank you," you're in trouble. A great Christian girlfriend tells you how hot she thinks you look in THAT shirt and might even be overheard telling her friends how handsome she thinks you look. She introduces you to her friends with lines such as, "this handsome fella is my boyfriend," or jokingly says things like "you can't have him, he's mine." You know what I'm talking about, those things that some girls have forgotten make us guys feel good too.

Number 8 - She's attracted to you sexually
That's right, SEXUALLY. Don't panic. What I'm about to say might be a little bit controversial, but I think you'll agree with me if you read all of this one. We're all grown-ups here and I'm not advocating that you have sex before you get married. But if it's easy for her to just sit there and hold your hand, you might want to reconsider. The apostle Paul said it's "better to marry than to burn with passion." That means that if you can't stand it and are having difficulty controlling yourself, you need to marry that person or be done with the relationship. So if you two are an "item" and have been for a while, that natural urge God placed within humans should start to kick in. If she doesn't seem to at least wish the two of you could go further than a passionate kiss, you might need to read the writing on the wall. The last thing you want is a sexually-uninterested wife. It's normal for you and her to have to fight that urge. It's not supposed to be easy. She should want you that way and if she doesn't, MOVE ON.

Number 7 - She's beautiful
Yeah, yeah, I know it's popular to say that inner beauty is all that matters. Well it doesn't. There I said it. She needs to be beautiful in your eyes. If you think she's beautiful and someone else things she's ugly, so what? You win! If you think she's beautiful on the outside and the inside, you've found the perfect combination.

Number 6 - She respects you
R-E-S-P-E-C-T, find out what it means to me! She doesn't roll her eyes at you. She doesn't mock you for thinking differently on some issue. She respects your opinion. She doesn't go to daddy to see if you really know what you're talking about. She doesn't tell your secrets to other people. She is able to recognize your strengths and admires you for them.

Number 5 - She lets you be a man (and likes it)
She understands that men and women are different. No, you don't want to go to the antique museum with her and she should know that you probably never will like it a whole lot. She should be able to recognize that when you do go it's because you love her very much and are making a sacrifice. She doesn't want you to "get in touch with your feminine side" and understands that sometimes you really aren't thinking about anything in particular. Lastly, she doesn't deprive you of golfing with the guys (or whatever you like to do with your buds). She doesn't think her shopping trips with the girls are not more mature or sophisticated than your time with the boys.

Number 4 - She doesn't nag
There is nothing worse than a nag! A great girlfriend knows this and chooses her battles wisely. She's knows you two are on the same team and so she doesn't try to be your teacher or mother--she just listens and tries to see your side.

Number 3 - She gets along with your friends & family
A great girlfriend will not only help your mom in the kitchen, listen to your dad's stories, and hang out with your friends, she will enjoy it. She'll make a real effort to get to know and love the most important people in your life. And she won't try to get you to ditch your best buds. She'll sit through your little brother's elementary play and go to your little sister's piano recital. Not only that, but your friends won't roll their eyes and moan when you announce that she'll be joining you guys when she gets off work (yes, women like this do exist).

Number 2 - She loves you
"She likes me for me!" That's a great line from a Blessed Union of Souls' song called, Hey Leonardo. That makes a great Christian girlfriend. She likes you for who you really are and not who you might sometimes pretend to be. She doesn't try to change you. She thinks you look cute in that old baseball hat and she made a decision to learn a few things about football. She treats you well on an everyday basis and doesn't play mind games with you such as playing "hard to get" or insulting you in some strange attempt to flirt with you. No, she loves you in a mature way and takes your feelings and beliefs into consideration at every turn.

Number 1 - She makes you want to be closer to God
No, she doesn't nag you about how you should be singing louder in church or shouldn't take a bite of your steak before saying "grace." In fact, she doesn't have to say anything to make you want to be closer to God. It's the way she treats you. It's that strange feeling of guilt that recently started coming over you for tripping your sister when you were a boy. It's why you want to thank God every time you think of her. Maybe it's love!

Guys, if you find a girl with all these traits...marry her!

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 Posted: Mon Dec 25, 2006 2:18 pm  Post subject: Most of this article is good...but...

...how do you know a guy won't be at an antique museum for his own interest?? Razz I'm a guy, but I might do something unexpected..... Razz Wink
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 Posted: Fri Dec 29, 2006 9:55 am  Post subject:

I guess the same way you know a girl will or won't.....you watch.
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 Posted: Mon Jan 01, 2007 4:29 pm  Post subject:

Allowing for the beauty of a girl's personal character,
a great top ten list!
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 Posted: Wed Mar 14, 2007 11:36 am  Post subject:

Actually, I like number 10. Not only for the girl but the guy as well. I don't want a guy that is so dependant on me that he can not make a simple decision on his own. Been there-don't like it. I believe independence goes hand in hand with self confidence.
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 Posted: Sun Jun 03, 2007 2:41 pm  Post subject:

I must also agree with number 10. It is very important to any great relationship that a couple are together because they want to be and compliment each other. Not because one feels like they need the other to survive. Then it's just a dependant/co-dependant relationship that will have many stuggles to survive if they do suvive.
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 Posted: Wed Nov 28, 2007 1:21 pm  Post subject:

wow, i couldn't agree more. i will copy and paste this on my other sites.
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 Posted: Wed Apr 18, 2012 10:42 pm  Post subject: video games???

Personaliy i think video games are a little childish. If you have nothing better to do with your time..pull out your Bible or spend some time to reflect on Gods word in His presence. If a "guy" wants to play his x-box with his buds hes no where near ready to settle down, what married man do you hear saying okay hunnie ill be home later im going to go over to a friends house to play madden??? I have nothing against football or video games..my kids enjoy them. But just like everything else, dont think a man changes and just matures when they get marrried. If your man spends his free time playing video games than thats a good indication of how your marriage will be. I think this article should be written from a womans pov like the male version was, it doesnt sound like a guideline it sounds more like what a guy wants...? Idea
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